IF A WOMAN HAS THESE 10 QUALITIES, NEVER LET HER GO

Did I tell you that am writing a book titled "The Backyard of relationships"? Over the last one week, I have been researching and reading a lot, over 30 literature book sources, to beef up my book.

More often than not, we rush into marriages without a clear glimpse and understanding of the partner we intend to marry. In most cases, the partner is either pushed to us by our parents or peers, or we have impregnated one cute lady on a hit-and-run mission and circumstances force us into marrying them. In my reading, I have provided a conclusive summary of the qualities you should look for in a woman you intend to marry. If you have found a woman who has some or all of these qualities, TREAT her WELL and NEVER let her GO.

1. She is smarter than you

According to Lawrence Whalley, professor emeritus of the University of Aberdeen who has been researching dementia for a long time found that a smart woman can protect you from dementia later in life. The idea is that a smart partner never stops challenging you intellectually, which helps you keep your mental faculties keen forever.

2. She has a positive outlook

Negative people are toxic and bad for our health in the long run. Internalized negativity can lead to increased heart rate, which impedes our digestion and lowers our concentration.

3. She laughs at your jokes

In 2006 a study by psychologists of Westfield State University suggested that having a partner who thinks they are funny is more important for men than for women. If you have already found a woman you can laugh with, make sure to take good care of her.

4. She supports your goals and pursues her own

Successful, well educated and high earning women do not marry less often than others.

A strong woman by your side will motivate you and won’t be dependent on you. You don’t need to worry about her and she won’t need your constant validation.

5. She has a good relationship with her parents

If you want to know what your partner will be like in 30 years, look at their parents. If you want to know how they will treat you in 30 years, look at how they treat their parents now.

6. She is kind

There are two kinds of couples, Masters and Disasters. The disasters, break it off in the first six years of the relationship. The masters stay together for a long time and always scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for whilst building the culture of respect and appreciation.

7. She remains calm in fights and calms you down.

Researchers of the University of California Berkeley and Northwest University who accompanied 80 couples for 13 years found out that a relationship will last the longest if the woman can calm herself during a fight and transfer those emotions to the man. The effect is not the same if the man is the one to calm down first.

8. She does foolish things with you

A long term study of the University of Michigan with 4,864 married individuals showed that the happiest couples where those who drank alcohol together. Couples that do more leisure time activities together have better marital quality.

9. She has a life of her own

According to a study by Terry Orbuch of  University of Michigan, when individuals have their own, space, privacy, friends, their own set of interests, when they are able to define themselves not by their spouse or relationship, that makes them happier and less bored.

10. She does not bear grudges

A study by researchers of the Luther College, the Duke University, and the Harvard Divinity School showed that people who can unconditionally forgive others live longer lives.

Forgiveness is the foundation of a healthy relationship.

All references in my literature review are acknowledged